bullying in school

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Anyway's....

Back to the subject of bullying.. INSIDE OF SCHOOL

Now I have been bullied since 4th to junior year of highschool. It was horrible. No physical abuse although There was a close call. All of the time it was verbal and let me tell you words cut the deepest. It messes with you psychologically. I started to get paranoid, not fun. When I look back I was teased because of a habbit that I had for 10 years called stimming, a hair pulling disorder that I developed when my parents got divorced, and for being me.

ELEMTARY SCHOOL: in 5th grade is when it REALLY started. I was called a teachers pet, My best friend told someone about my habit which was a secret, she apologized later and I got a candy cane haha. Hmmm that's all I can remember about 5th grade.

MIDDLE SCHOOL: okay now this is where it REALLY HONEST TO G-D BEGINS. I went to cabrillo middle school for 2 weeks before I moved to Westlake Village. In that time this blonde chick in my P.E. class made fun of me because I had no eyelashes. I don't understand why! I mean, why are people so mean and cruel!?  I know that MAYBE she had a back story of being picked on herself so she picked on others... I think she was just a witch with a B. SO I moved to Colina Middle School. It would have been okay IF PEOPLE WEREN'T SUCH MEANIES!! Oh my gosh talk about stereotypical middle school. The most prominent memories I have of that time are a girl making fun of my sweater because it was gap, her exact words were, "you shop at Gap?" now imagine that but in a snooty tone by a girl. Yes she actually said that... I was picked on by guys more than girls in middle school and whoever told you that " when a guy teases you it means they like you" needs their head examined ASAP. That's a load of poo. 7th grade I was picked on by a guy ((who shall not be named)) and his friend. 7th grade is when I started to pull my head hair. I went from pulling my eyelashes and eybrows to head hair. He would mock me in class to his friends when I would look in that direction. IN FRONT OF EVERYONE. It was so cruel and heartbreaking. Just thinking about it wants to make me cry. 8th grade same situation different guy ((who shall not be named)). He would mock me by mimicking me and he would tease me saying I ate my hair and tease me about liking this guy who of course I didn't. He would be like " oh you eat your hair.." I would put my hair in my mouth to get to the strand that I wanted. Yeah It was really bad then. What's interesting now is that he's no longer a prick in highschool. Sometimes people can change it just takes them oh 2 YEARS!! I would also be teased on the bus that I took in middle school and in my social studies class... I don't know why. And there was this kid in class who also had autism but a bit more severe than me and they would get annoyed with him really quickly because he has sensitive hearing and would cover his ears and screech a little when there were loud noises or he got fustrated. So I got picked on in middle school because of my hair pulling habit and because I me being me. Lovely ain't it.

HIGH SCHOOL: The people who picked on me in middle school, I would see them around my high school aint' that just peaches. They weren't my tormenters anymore I got new ones and this time they were girls. In my geometry class this girl ((who shall not be named)) flat out called me weird out loud in class. I just turned around and had a "what the hell man!?" gesture and expression of my face. The teacher would be humming songs and I made it a game to guess what they were. It was fun, "my fair lady", Phil collins etc.. the teacher didn't mind mainly because I was probably one only students that gave a crap about his class. I wasn't an A (( I got a B)) student but I tried my best. This one girl was TERRIBLE!! I had a confrontation with her and almost lost my self control not to punch her and tackle her to the ground... in front of the teacher after class. Basicly she didn't like me because I was being myself I think. In my American sign language class sophmore year or maybe it was junior year this one girl (( who shall not be named)) would mock me and tease me about my hair pulling with this other girl across the class room. At one point I got really down and upset and the teacher asked me to sign something annnnnd I said no. I was reeeeeaaaally depressed because of her. FYI never refuse a teacher when they ask you to do something, bad idea. It was around this time I was getting paranoid.

senior year of course was a hell of a lot better. For some reason people started to grow a jimminy cricket on their shoulder. Better late than never I suppose.

A lot of the times I was bullied was because of a habit which I think most people with autisim have and being myself.

so tips on how to deal with bullying if your autistic:

Options:
1) ignore them. I'm just gonna put it on the list but honestly, It doesn't really help, those bullies are anything if not persistent. botherbotherbotherbotherbotherbotherbotherbother

2) Tell your parent. They want to know and they will help! This is more of a last resort. Ask them for advice or have them do something depending on the severity.

3) tell the teacher. It's not tattling if your being verbally abused numerous times. Schools have a zero tollerance policy so they take this quite seriously.

4) confront the bully.... WITH A COUNSLER PRESENT! yes confronting the bully is a must if they wont leave you alone. Enough is enough. But have a counsler present, they are the mediator and will make sure things run smoothly, I know confronting the bully is scary but if you want it to stop it needs to be done.

THINGS NOT TO DO
1) telling your older sibling and have them defend you. This is just an option and not a good one. My Older brother did this and well.... the bully got scared. I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE SAID... it was a bad situation.

2) threating that your older brother (or sibling) will kick their ass. I didn't mean it and I only did this ONCE. Threatening is also taken very seriously by the schools, don't do it.

3) fighting fire with fire. Don't try to say something witty and insulting back it doesn't help matters and if your not good at it, it will make you look dumb and that's where bad option numer 2 came in. I'm terrible at comebacks because I don't make it a thing to verbally hurt people.

I have other bully stories but these are more autism related. And you know what's weird some of my tormenters were a year younger than me.

Parents I know your going to want to take action if your child is being bullied especially if they are autistic. If they can defend themselves to some degree, advise them first and if it's still out of hand then intervene but DISCREETLY!! If they can't defend themselves because they are too severe in the autism spectrum then by all means CHARGE!!!

So I covered habbits I've had or still have a little bit and I'll go over those next time and how to go about them.